Slow start

So far the six days of January have felt like the entire month of December, it has gone so slow. I woke up on January 2nd disoriented to my job, having ten days of holiday time before. I had to remember exactly what I was doing.

This year definitely feels different than all those before it. I feel much more grounded in my life purpose and goals. I feel satisfied with nearly every part of my life. I am in a wonderful committed relationship that breathes life into me every day. I am writing my first book and freeing my story from within. I really got started with my nonprofit organization that I hope to retire building and growing.

But all of that was lost on me on January 2nd. All the goal setting I did days earlier sat dormant in my new journal. I passed the minutes of the day trying to organize my jobs for the year and reach out to coworkers. I had a couple hot tub breaks just to separate the day into smaller sections I could handle.

I choose a word for every year. Last year was “Control” and this year I chose a phrase instead of one word, “Start to Finish.” I have decided procrastination is not going to be in my vocabulary this year or beyond. I will begin things with the end in mind.

Boxes stacked up by the door from Christmas were left untouched. Laundry was undone. Life just wasn’t starting when it felt like I was at the beginning of the rest of my life.

And that is okay.

It is okay sometimes to just not being feeling it. It is okay to decide to start tomorrow. Or next week. On Wednesday, I sat down and wrote down all the things I wanted to accomplish every week. And then I outlined a daily routine that included everything on my list. Now I could be sitting in the evening wondering what to do and look at my list and know what I should do at that moment.

It improved my Thursday and Friday. I am still not completely driven and I plan for that to happen next week. For now I am relaxing this weekend. I did get all the house cleaning done and the laundry started.

So if you are being hard on yourself for not jumping right in to your new year resolutions and goals. Tomorrow is another day. Next week will be there for that. And if not, it won’t matter anyway!

Slow start

How do we prevent it?

I have had an idea brewing for a while and it seems so very clear to me these days. Mental health advocacy is at the top of my list of life purposes. I have a very soft spot for children’s mental health, believing we as a country and world need to do a better job at raising emotionally intelligent and aware human beings.

This is not an easy feat. We as adults already have a wealth of trauma and learned behaviors that hinder our ability to maintain emotional intelligence or mental awareness. But as I see it, we must start somewhere. When education systems are failing, we start at the beginning and look at the younger grades to see how we can prevent it becoming an issue later in school years.

I think we must do the same with mental health. When I was pregnant with my first child and nearing the end of term, I was barraged with questions from my OBGYN, family, and online mother support groups. These all focused on the physical health of my child. Who would be the pediatrician on record? Would he/she be able to make a visit in the hospital prior to discharge? I was informed of the 2-day, 2-week, and 6-week well child checks and how they are all preventative healthcare visits, covered 100% by insurance.

We are vigilant to care for all the externally noticed issues relating to proper eating, sleeping, and physical immune system. But we have missed a critical organ, the brain.

So this is where my idea comes in. I feel at the same frequency, a child should have a “mental health general physician” designated at birth, just like their pediatrician.

Prior to the child’s ability to talk, the MHGP would establish a mental health medical history with the parents. Screening would be performed for post partum disorders of both parents, and referrals made if needed. As often as a well check pediatrician appointment is made, a mental well check appointment would be made.

As the child reaches speaking age, the mental well check would be more inclusive of the child in the form of play therapy along with input from parents. Records would be kept. Issues would be addressed. Once a year, the child would meet their MHGP for an hour of therapy as preventative medicine.

When the child approaches adolescence and adulthood, a recommendation to a MHGP who specializes in an older age range would be made. Records would transfer and care would be continued with one visit each year considered preventative care. Additional sessions could be scheduled through this established physician/therapist if the need arises.

It is long past due for mental healthcare to be equal to physical healthcare in the insurance world. When we are always looking back at tragic events wondering how to prevent it, why do we not consider the possibility of “preventative” mental healthcare. And treat it the same as physical care and cover preventative care 100%.

Therapy is not just to fix the past. It is to educate the patient on proper coping mechanisms and emotional awareness. Just like a medical doctor should see you when you are well and when you are sick.

So, maybe this is the change we fight for. Maybe we can all agree to start at the beginning and provide the next generation the tools and support they need and 20 years from now, we won’t miss the signs of imminent tragedy.

How do we prevent it?